The new grounding - part 3

Emotions

By Marisa Evelo, May 2010

This is a series of articles about the new grounding. This article will be about the effects of emotions on grounding.

Some difficulties with grounding

In my previous article I temporarily redefined grounding as being present with your life-force energy in your physical body ànd energetically connecting your body to the ground.
This leads to more awareness of everything that is going on inside yourself and everything that is happening in the outer world. It also enables you to let your energies flow into the earth.

There are three major groups of people who are not grounded. The first one I already described as the people who tend to be only present in their head, the people who think a lot.
There’s another group of people who often have difficulty being grounded. Some people who are spiritually oriented also tend to be only present in their head, because they only focus on higher spiritual items. They direct their energy upward not downward. This may involve a very limited connection with their physical body.  They have to watch losing the connection with their body. You’re meant to be a spiritual being while being present on earth. Therefore you should be grounded in your physical body. Your life-force energy should be present in your whole being!
The third group of people who have difficulty with grounding are people who have difficulty in relation to their emotions. All emotions are reflected in your physical body. If you don’t like to experience these emotions or your emotions are too overwhelming, you may want to try to loosen up  the connection with your body and withdraw part of your energy out of your body. Thus it makes you less grounded.
There’s a fourth, new group of people coming up who have difficulty with grounding. This group consists of people of the new earth. Some of them are born with new consciousness others were born with no or only partial connection with this new consciousness and, over time have developed themselves and now live within this new consciousness as well. In the article ‘Grounding in the fifth dimension’ I will pay attention to this group and the way they should handle grounding. For now the present article can be helpful to understand their past, recent or actual  problems, or shed some light on the way people around them act.

Suddenly you feel unsafe!

Let me give you an example of suddenly being less connected to your body and therefore also less connected to the earth. You may be confronted with something very unpleasant, something that causes you to feel unsafe. Lets say this unpleasant event takes you by surprise.
Imagine for instance you receive a phone call from someone who is telling you your spouse has had an accident. You’ll probably be startled, listen to the message and more and more wish this isn’t really happening. As a result you will withdraw most of your life-force energy out of your body. This may temporarily give you a feeling of less insecurity, feeling more safe. You are less connected with your body and experience less of your bodily reactions, your emotions, even your thoughts. You are also less connected with your environment too. This may feel more secure, more safe.  But by withdrawing your life-force energy you will be less able to sense the incoming information like the phone number you need to know so you can call the hospital. You will need to ask the person to repeat the phone number several times, so you can write it down, while normally you are able to write it down at once. Withdrawing your energy and therefore becoming less grounded sometimes may feel like you are creating more safety, feeling more secure. But you actually will end up in false security.

As a reaction to something very unpleasant, as described above, you will pull most of your life-force energy into the higher parts of your body, or even outside of your body. This may happen with such a high speed that you will feel sick around the solar plexus and stomach, you will feel nauseous.

If ever you are in a situation like this you should pay attention to the next actions. First of all acknowledge you are startled, the situation is not what you had hoped for and you react emotionally. Accept this state and plan to express your emotions. Maybe it’s possible to express some of the emotions while you’re in this conversation. If not then plan  to do so after you have finished this conversation, for example by planning to call someone else, singing the blues, or whatever suits you. Do not deny your emotions.
At this very moment ground yourself so you are able to sense all the incoming information and you are able to ask the right questions. Remember grounding means you connect your life-force energy into your body ànd you connect your body energetically into the ground. This way you will be able to be present, and react appropriately. You may also be able to let go of your emotions, let them flow into the earth.

Emotions

Let me explain some things about emotions. We have positive and negative emotions. The negative ones we usually find unpleasant. Especially the ones that will make you feel uncomfortable, unsure, insecure, not safe, in sorrow, in fear or in pain. We have the tendency to want to get rid of all negative things in our life. Therefore we spent a great deal of time fighting our negative emotions. If they actually take part in our life we try to make them disappear. If this doesn’t work we may try to ignore them. When they’re not part of our present life we try to hold them back. Keep them out of our life and prevent them coming in.
The fear of feeling these negative emotions and the fight against them often leads us to disconnecting our life-force energy from our physical body, which will lead to not being grounded anymore.

Of course we also have positive emotions, like pleasure, relief, feeling proud, etc. Many people are looking for positive emotions, we cling to them, we don’t want them to end. If they’re not part of our actual life we are willing to do a lot of sensible but also weird things to bring them back into our lives. We may even want to fight for them.

Having these positive emotions we may feel safe, happy etc. This can lead to being grounded for as long as we have these positive emotions. But as soon as the negative emotions start coming back into our life we will start feeling unsafe again and loose trust, not feel  confident anymore. This will lead to being less grounded, we withdraw our life-force energy out of our body.

Our relationship with emotions

Lets take a closer look at our relationship with emotions. Emotions are part of our human(!) condition. We humans have loved to play the game of drama for a long time. Drama means we let emotions be part of ourselves. Whether we feel emotions of pleasure or sadness and pain, many people find their lives dull without them. Many people love to feel the thrill of emotions. “Emotions make us feel alive!”, some people say.
Many people identify with their emotions. If you’re one of them you act as if you are your emotions, not as if you have emotions. This will lead to the feeling that the emotions over rule you, take you over. That you are not in command, but your emotions are.” I can’t help it, I am so sad, angry” or whatever.

Grounding helps you to let go of the emotions you are no longer attached to. This means that as long as you identify yourself with certain emotions, you can’t let go. Your magnetism/energy will keep these emotions in your system. They will even pull more of them into your life. Even if you were fully grounded, you couldn’t let go. Only once you stop identifying yourself with emotions and not cling to them anymore (and fighting against them is a way of clinging to them as well!) you will be able to let go.
Then the grounding will serve you: Being present in your body your energies can flow to the transforming earth.

Moving from duality to triality

The whole concept of clinging to our emotions has to do with our dualistic view on life. For a long time we have defined our reality as being dualistic: good and bad, light and dark etc. Our human emotions are a natural tool which we have taken for granted playing this game of duality. Being attached to our emotions implies we see the world as positive and negative, good and bad. Now that our consciousness is expanding we are able to no longer identify with our emotions. To step out of duality and live in the perception of triality. This means we are able to approach life with a perception of three positions. The third position is the one observing the other two, which enables us to spread a new light on things. We don’t have to hang on to the dualistic view of good and bad, positive and negative any more(read more about triality in the ‘Beacons of light’ by Steve Rother and the group)

In the first 3 articles of this series I extended the definition of grounding from being energetically connected to the ground to also being present in your physical body, by letting your life-force energy into every part of your body. This temporary redefinition is necessary because our consciousness is expanding and our vibration is rising.
I will redefine grounding in the following articles once more. The temporary definition as described above is however a practical one for many people to work with at this moment in time.

So start doing everything you do in daily life being present in your body. Be connected with and be aware of all your bodily sensations. If you have some physical or psychological trauma which makes it not possible for you to feel safe in your body you should start working on that. If you can’t handle it yourself, get some help. The trauma doesn’t necessarily need to be healed, you need to handle it differently, so it won’t cause unsafeness anymore.
In the next article I will describe some activities that may help you to be more grounded as in this temporary definition. I will also explain the difference between emotions and feelings.
In the following articles I will write more about grounding while living in the fifth dimension.

When we connect with our deepest love and light, we are able to ground independently of whatever emotions come into our life.

Love and Light,

Marisa Evelo

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