Hey human angel, take care of yourself!
By Marisa Evelo, January 2010

Can you feel it?!

The year of 2010 began and in the morning of the first of January I felt a change of energy on this planet. The energy has become more powerful. Fit for many challenges, which inevitably will come. In this we will be challenged to follow our Selves.

Because of the growing consciousness more and more people will awaken and not be satisfied anymore with playing this ‘follow the other one’. People shift to’ I want to be ME’,’ I want to follow my Self!’

Do you already know who you are? Are you one/whole: a divine human being? Do you walk your pure inner talk?
In my practice more and more people come to me with this question ‘Who am I?’ Especially people who don’t follow themselves. Who have been busy trying to fulfill the desires and expectations of the people around them. Partners, friends, colleagues etc.

There are many reasons why people don’t dare to be themselves: fear of being nobody, fear of not being loved, are the two most important ones.
If you live your life through these fears, you tend to focus on the persons around you instead of yourself. You give your power away and will start acting to comfort the other persons. To fulfill their dreams, to make them happy.
But will this make you happy? Probably for a short while. But usually some time later you will start to comfort the other person again and again.

Now and then this behavior will frustrate you. You may accuse the other person of not loving you the way you are, he has too many claims etc. But you are the one who has given your power away, because you think it may help to comfort/love the other person instead of yourself.
Now the other person may like your attention and your adaptive behavior. In a short while he will expect and want nothing else. He may stop loving himself, or maybe he never did love himself. A relationship of co-dependency evolves.

Did you know that  sometimes this pattern of co-dependency becomes a real addiction? You  become addicted to the other persons confirmation, attention (positive and negative!) but also to the adrenaline in your brain, as a result of walking on eggshells and fulfilling the other persons wishes, not trying to upset him etc. (read more in Women who love too much, Robin Norwood).

Of course it is also possible you yourself are the one with a demanding character. Making yourself not completely act true to who you really are. For example by putting a lot of pressure on yourself, being a perfectionist. Or by telling yourself you are a looser, too sensitive to go out in the world,  telling yourself you can not change the way you live your life. This way you also end up being a complete other person than who you really are. You have given your power away to this other you. You are not following your true self but a self who thinks it is in charge. You follow the created inner leader.

Maybe you are one of these people, trying to comfort the other person more than yourself. Or you yourself put a lot of pressure on the way you live your life because of your fears.  Maybe you recognize you are feeling  more and more irritated. Maybe you simply want to be and follow your true Self again. Then it surely is time you focus on yourself!

It simply starts with an intention and the commitment to love and be yourself, although you don’t have a clue how to do this. Being the creator you are, you will create perfect opportunities to bring in this change. You will start working on letting go of old beliefs systems, pains etc. Find some help if you want to. In the situation of an addiction to love the other too much, you surely need to focus on your life lesson, and how to master this (Steve Rother: Spiritual psychology). But in many other situations it can be helpful as well.

During the next years everyone will become more powerful in creation. Therefore it is of the most importance you bring your attention back to yourself. Because you do create your life! So open up your heart to yourself! Don’t give your power away. Let love be your creative power, not your fears.
This may be a 180 degrees turn in which you tell yourself you will hurt a lot of people around you. Especially the one you have become co-dependent with. But the wonderful thing in this is: this creates an opportunity in which he or she can start loving him or herself too.
So you go ahead and open your heart, reconnect with the love inside of yourself and give it to yourself, more and more.

We create our own lives. We already are far more powerful creators than many people are aware off.  And we become more powerful every day!
Go, reconnect with yourself through your heart. Stop following the other person. Know who you are. Be who you are! Follow yourself!

This year, and the ones to follow, you surely will be stimulated to be and follow yourself. Don’t be surprised to feel it. Can you feel it?!

While writing this article I kept hearing the song ‘Can you feel it’, from Michael Jackson. It’s about us, humanity, being connected.
Becoming one, reconnecting is essential, foremost with yourself! Open your heart to yourself. No more lies, no more hiding, no more adaptation. Being true to YOU.

Here are two YouTube films of the song 'Can you feel it', by Michael Jackson (and the Jacksons):
A powerful version

A more spiritual version

Love and Light,

Marisa