There is an old saying that “good fences make good neighbors”, and I wonder if this applies to personal boundaries as well.  In other words, “good personal boundaries make good personal relationships”.

The trouble with boundaries, though, is figuring them out.  I’ve noticed that what was perfectly acceptable behavior at one point in my life feels a bit out-of-line now.  And, what was out-of-line in the past is now acceptable.  So, it seems that boundaries, like truth, are fluid and ever-changing things.  As I change; my boundaries change.

So, how the heck am I supposed to clearly communicate my boundaries to others?  Especially when it is during or after the fact that I notice that something is no longer acceptable to me?  It’s just not as easy as building a fence.  My land doesn’t move around on me, so my fence stays put.  The property boundary is easy to see, and easy to honor.  And so, it is up to me to communicate each boundary as I become aware of it, I suppose.

And, of course, some personal boundaries are very clear cut.  For example, it is not OK to come to my home and trash the place, or steal things, or disrespect me in any way.  It is not OK to harm me or my property, that is – if the harm is intentional (not accidental). 

On one hand, it seems that boundaries are more for my ego than for my spirit.  On the other hand, it is not my function in life to be anyone’s doormat or punching bag.  I look forward to the day when I can move with ease and grace through absolutely any situation and not be concerned with boundaries. 

I think that it is possible to get to a place where I no longer require a fence.  Where people can roam freely through my energetic landscape and cause no damage – to me or to anyone else in my energetic field. 

I’m certainly not there yet, but the dream and the possibility come first.  Now it’s up to God to take care of how I get there.

Namaste!